Questions....

This was brought up on our forums and got me thinking. One thing that I've learned quickly from our adoption is that you're going to get stupid, rude, and intrusive questions and comments. I understand that this is only the beginning since Landon isn't home yet. I just think that it's sad that people feel that it's their "right" or that they are "entitled" to know why we are doing what we are. Honestly, the thought has never crossed my mind to ask a complete stranger in the store, or even really friends or family for that matter about their appearance, disability, their child, etc. I just think it's rude. I keep my thoughts and questions to myself pretty much all the time. I might say "aww, they are cute" or something of that nature, but it just doesn't "hit" me to make/ask a rude, instrusive, or nosy comment or question.

We've been asked how much it costs, about his birth family, about if he's in an orphanage, and several others. I believe one of the most annoying things we've been asked is "why not adopt in the US?" One of the most annoying comments we get is "now that you're adopting, you'll get pregnant." These are seriously things that we'd prefer not to be asked or hear while we are waiting on our son to come home. We love our son. More than anything in this world and we don't want anything to prevent us from bringing him home. Pregnancy would do just that. So no, we don't hope to get pregnant right now. As for adopting in the US, our decision was not based on race, but rather on what was best for us. Luckily for us, God doesn't love us or judge us based on the color of our skin. I don't feel that we should adopt based on skin color either. People who have never adopted just don't understand or get it. They think that there are millions of American babies just waiting for families and that it would be a lot easier to just adopt a child here. Or they may think, well there are plenty of Koreans that want to adopt babies from their own country. Neither of those statements are true. Ultimately, not to be rude, but where we adopt from is no one else's business but ours. This is what was right for Eric & me and how we are building our family.

Which brings me to another point. We have a wonderful support group in most of our family and friends. I am so thankful that God has built this support group around us. We're still praying for a couple of family members and that God can touch their hearts and change them to be accepting of our adoption. Only he can do that. I am especially thankful for the group of adoptive mommies that I've met. The forums and the mommies that I've met through them are absolutely wonderful and are the "best" source of advice and information I could ask for. To experience their journey with them and for them to be there for us through our journey is such a blessing.